Welcome! I'm Michele...
My name is Michele, and I created this blog to help people who suffer from anxiety. I am not a psychiatrist, and my degree is not in psychology (although I have a B.S. in Biology/Pre-Medicine).
I made this site because I suffered from debilitating anxiety for many, many years. I also suffered from severe depression and was hospitalized many times for it. I read everything there was to read about overcoming anxiety, and I tried so many things I read or heard about. Most of it was just useless crap and didn't help at all.
This site offers one thing only: Help.
Every article provides actionable steps you can take to overcome your anxiety.
There are no "What is Anxiety?" or "What are the symptoms of anxiety?" articles here. I trust you know what anxiety is. I'm not here to waste your time.
I don't like taking pills. For those who do, I say do whatever works for you. But I will not advocate medicating the problem here on this site. I know it is possible to fix it without drugs, because I and many other people have done it.
I was afflicted with crippling anxiety probably 80-90% of every day for years. I tried to avoid people and situations that might trigger my anxiety until I never wanted to leave my house or interact with people. But that didn't resolve my anxiety.
I would spend all day sitting alone in my home, but I would literally shake sitting on my couch feeling nauseous with my heart racing and all the other uncomfortable symptoms that come along with anxiety. So even sitting alone at home did not resolve or ease the problem.
If you have a problem with anxiety, the first thing you need to do is visit a healthcare professional, get a physical, and rule out any physical problems.
Beyond that, anxiety is a problem involving thinking and behavior - both of which are not easy to change once you're stuck in the anxiety mode. But the fact is they can be changed. I speak from personal experience.
Other than professionals in the healthcare industry, I don't think people truly understand the terror and suffering those with severe anxiety endure on a daily basis. So many of the self-help books and websites I went to for help were way off and completely unhelpful.
When you're seeking some help, do you want to hear advice from someone who went to school and studied about it, or do want advice from someone who has been exactly where you've been, felt the terror, avoided going to places because of the dread, and overcame it so that fear and anxiety rarely rear their ugly head anymore?
I prefer the latter. That's why I made this website.
It reminds me of this scene from Good Will Hunting:
I built this website to share information about how to really take control of yourself and get over the trap of constant anxiety with articles and exercises that really work.
The fact is you can eliminate fear and anxiety, no matter how long you've suffered from it. Eliminate is a strong word, because anyone will tell you "Fear is a part of life". But you can find that inner center and seat yourself there. When fear comes, you can observe it and let it pass on by without being affected by it.
Yes, this can be you.
In order to be anxious, you have to think and behave in a certain way. Once you've adopted those ways, you get stuck in a repeating pattern, and you think and respond the same basic way to various stimuli, events, people, etc. I share how to break out of this pattern and present exercises and ideas to help you do so.
I don't think switching from being an anxiety-ridden person to one who is calm and at peace is easy. It takes knowledge and consistent effort until you create new habits of thinking and behaving. Stepping outside your comfort zone can be scary and uncomfortable at first. But if you persevere, the payoff is well worth it.
You can do it. I have. And so have a lot of other people. And you can do it without medication.